Tuesday, July 27, 2010

I need advice from gay guys only. Help?

This guy I've had a crush on for a while told me I was cute, and that eventually he wanted to start dating me. After school today I'm driving home with him and were gonna hang out at his house. He said he wants to cuddle %26amp; kiss while watching a movie. The problem is, I'm not really sure how to cuddle or kiss, seeing as how I've never had anyone TO cuddle or kiss. Any advise?I need advice from gay guys only. Help?
Well, you have to unzip his trousers and pull them down and put your mouth around his dick...I need advice from gay guys only. Help?
Dude I was the same way too. Communication. That's the key. Tell him that you've never done it before BUT that you want him to be the one to show you how. He will think that it's the cutest thing on earth. Trust me bro. Be genuine. You may feel pressure to be the best he's ever had but you're just learning the intimate basics. So try to relax and enjoy it. Be present when you cuddle with him. It's perfectly normal to be nervous about trying new stuff like that but once you start cuddling and kissing him, it will all feel natural. Congrats on finding a cool guy. Have fun.
1. Be sure you have flossed and brushed your teeth and tongue. Perhaps chew on a mint also just beforehand.





2. Be gentle with kissing. Slowly draw your face close to his. Kiss him on the cheek, the neck. Take your time. Then let your lips tenderly press onto his. With your dominant hand, stroke his hair or cheek or chin or neck or shoulder. Don't be afraid; he likes you and this is all cool.





3. With your non-dominant hand, pull him close.





4. Heads / faces at a bit of an opposite angle when facing each other...I hope that makes sense.





5. As you become comfortable kissing, experiment a little. Kiss his lower lip. Use your tongue gently probing to touch his tongue.





If you are sweet and tender, you can't go wrong. You'll get used to kissing.





I like Ben's ideas of positions for cuddling.





Don't do like one guy did to me (UGH) and stick a tongue down my throat repeatedly like a snake! Hahaha -- that was the only date with *that* guy.
Ok. Just get in nice and close with him.


Push youself up next to him, rest your head on his chest so that he can caress your hair.





Or





You can both lie on the couch. Him behind, you in front..vice versa...





Or, this is what I like to do. You can put your arm around his shoulder, swing your legs over his and kiss his mouth :)





I hope I explained ok?





Anyway, you two sound so cute! Keep us updated! I want to find out what happens! haha





EDIT: Once you're in the mode...you'll figure out what's most comfortable and then go with that. It's not as hard as you might think it is lol. Just be flexible, don't be tense and go in there with no preconceived expectations and you should be good!
Be honest with him. Tell him you have no experience and that you need him to teach you. He will feel flattered, and take the lead. Tell him what feels good to you, and tell him to tell you what feels good to him. Open and honest communication are the key to really having fun with the guy you like.





Don't be ashamed of your inexperience. Don't try to fake something you are not. You will only end up making yourself look ridiculous. He's going to catch on anyway that you haven't done this before, so the best policy would be to just tell him up front.





Good luck, and have fun (and make sure he does, too)!
Yeah I know it is all scary and you can never be quite sure what to do - but honestly it is like sleeping - just lie there and do whatever you like - similarly if he does something then you give that same thing a go a little while later.





No one knows what to do. as the NiKE add says - just do it - whatever comes naturally.





Enjoy it - it's a great experience and It can be great fun.
Well if you think about it, or practice it, or need to be taught, etc. - it will not be cuddling or kissing at all!! It will be awkward, uncomfortable and embarrassing for both of you.





Sexual acts are instinctive and need to come naturally; not rehearsed!
Relax while you're in the situation it will all come naturally to you. It's just like no-one can really teach you how to kiss - you just learn from experience.





Have fun!

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