Honest Advice please girls....(guys cn reply too)?

hey every1 i joined up so i could get some advice or pointers on how to salvage my relationship.My story is a real long one so ima try keep it as short as possible without missing too much details.


So me and this girl went out for a year and 2 months and things were great. we had the occasional fight and a number of other ups and downs but pulled thru each of em to make us even more stronger.note that this is a long distance relationship. i live in nsw and shes in qld. i know u might be like ohh yeah long distance never works out. yeah i used to believe that too but once me and her got thru that phase the relationship seemed as normal as any other except there wasnt a physical side to it.


so y did we break up??it was in october 2008 and it was a religion factor, i didnt wana hurt her and was real iffy about the relationship after a sarcastic talk with my parents just to see where their mindset was at. she was very hurt ofcourse and i cudnt stand to tell it all it hurt so much knowing we had everything goin for us and had to end cuz of this, our love was so strong and usually if im iffy i fight thru it. this one time i let my head get to me and i end it.i was such a fool cuz i realised my mistake a short time later in decemberish.i had all the research and a back up solution if my parents were to say no and everything was legit but during our break apart we still talked as normal but she was seeing other guys cuz when a girl is that hurt she needs a shoulder. this other guy was all ready to be her bf while me and her were still sorting stuff out.is it typical of a girl to go to a guy with arms wide open when she hurt??get this i ask her bout him and she says ';he isnt someone she cud be dating, he just isnt my type';and she wasnt lying. so then y is she going out with him:Sand she started dating him like days after she officially ended it all in december.i was confused and hurt so badly but i guess it was my fault to end it in the first place. what we had for each other cant be explained in just words. it was so deep nd intense and then she just moves onto dis new guy???wtf?rebound??duz she just need affection from a guy??


i dint talk to her all january and at the end of that month emailed her saying that i understand y she had to move on and stuff and that ill step aside.she sms'd back saying how she appreciates wat im doing and that shed still love to be able to talk to me from time to time and i quote that from her sms. aswell as things like im amazing and understanding for doin all this for her and just letting her be and she was glad to have had me for the time she did..i also wrote that in my email to her.during feb things went cold.id msg her nd get no reply..out of every few msgs id send now n den id get mayb 1 reply,shed never pick up but explain y.she duz that every time she misses a call or msgs late..';oh sorry bout missin etc....heyz sorry for the late reply etc';...i got fed up and i gave her an ultimatum to either sort out this communication dilemme or ima leave her in the past..den she sends a long as msg sayin she been busy and i got bad timing and i need to let go nd stuff...shed say the reason she duznt talk as much is cuz ill start acting like her bf but thats not true..its not like i was bombarding her wit calls nd msgs...id do it like once or twice a week(msg/call).so i went all silent on her and msged weeks later nd got a reply back faster than usual.she was tellin me bout how she was and that she had been wondering how i was and it was nice of me to msg her.after that i replied and then i went silent again..its been over a week now i think and for the first time she msgs me and asks bout me nd my day nd how i am.i reply a short time later and thats that.since feb i decided that id go silent and not dwell in her but msg or call once or twice a month to let her know communication lines are still open.i know that this relationship is very possible to salvage regardless of the distance, even though i may not be there with her physically ive got my feelings to back me up, i dont think he can give that to her.yeah he is there physically but she'll realise that he isnt wat she wants.i hope she will see that and then return im my arms.im just living my life and im occupied with things and events so i dont really think about her and im happy.dwelling in her and keeping a tab on her will only annoy nd hurt so i dont do that.no point.this isnt one of those post break up situations where eventually ill just move on.its sumthin really special which i lost but im going to get it back its just gona take time and patience.


i researched ways which would help to get her back but i want real thoughts from girls and guys if they got back their girl.


thanks for takin da time to read this post:)Honest Advice please girls....(guys cn reply too)?
From the way that you put it, yeah that new guy is just a rebound. Don't get your hopes up though. You can't expect her to come running back to you because things can change. So it's better to just be chill about it without worrying about what she's doing or who she's with too much. If she does eventually go back to you, then great! Just don't wait for her because you could be wasting your time.