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First off I know it's long..but no one would understand if I didn't explain so please be patient =/..thanks.





Last year I was seeing this guy (we have known eachother for about 3 years) but were seeing/dating or hooking up ..I have no clue what we were but it was just complicated. When he came back from Iraq he decided to go out with his cousins best friend (whom he was previously interested in) and told me that he just had slightly more feelings for her and yadda yadda..just too much stuff I don't need to get into. lol Then after a year we start to talk again.. recently..just catching up on life..and he basically broke my heart the first time (i fall hard) but he made it out to seem he was interested and we ';hooked up'; alot, point is I was naieve and stupid.





Well recently we started to talk almost every night and he kept telling me how much he wanted to see me and that I was a great person and he made a mistake..well one night he tells me that him and his ';now ex'; broke up because she is currently in another country and wants to enlist for another 3 years and they just want different things. I am definitley keeping a BIG guard up with him. We decided to meet and we chilled at his place and we got intimate (I didn't want it to happen but it did) ..he was drunk and he was pretty overwhelming with telling me almost ALL night how interested he was in me and how glad he was that I came to spend time with him blah blah blah.





We went to the rooftop of his place and he ended up holding my hand and I was like why are you interested NOW?? He was just like your sincere and caring. We went to dinner and a movie this past weekend and had a good time, but it's like he's holding back. I noticed his myspace (as petty as it is) still has him and his ex as the main picture (we aren't myspace friends and his is private) and it just seems odd to me. I asked him wtf is going on, I'm not understanding he basically said he was interested (although we aren't an ';item'; I still think I have the right to know. He said he was interested, but didn't know what he wanted right now.





I told him I'm not having anymore intimacy with him, no more, and he will respond to my text messages, but won't initiate conversation.





The other night I texted him and asked him if him and his ex were still going out and he kept asking me why. I said look it's not a big deal I just wanted to know. He finally said no..we aren't dating anymore but you knew that.





Then last night I told him I knew he would stop talking to me (just to prove a point)..and he said why..I said because I said I wouldn't ';do anything'; with you and I asked you about your ex.. and he was like I stopped talking to you because you didn't answer me on why you asked me about my ex and I told you I did I didn't want to have intimacy either, obviously you don't trust me so don't waste my time. And asked me what was the point in him trying if I didn't trust him. (waste his time haha unbelievable)! I asked him what his problem was and he said just annoyed I was like why? your that annoyed by me because of that question? he said I dont know. Then later that night he texted me out of the blue after I told him I would let him be and he said... the reason I still have me and my ex up on myspace is because I love her still and am in no hurry to remove her from my life, the only reason we broke up is because we wanted different things for our future. I was like well alright then lol.





We saw eachother again last weekend and then the next day I txted him and asked asked him why did you seem so interested and now you act like your not. He was like Im not talking about this right now, I'll talk to you later. Of course he never does, so I told him to not worry about it there's nothing to say. (Just to prove a point) No response. When I ask him questions he shuts down. Granted I understand he still has feelings for his ex (and me and him have had a history together for almost 3 years) it was like we were going out but never actually had a real relationship. But it seems he keeps coming back to me as a rebound. WHY??? He said once he was interested but he's not ready for any relationship right now. I just don't get it.





He seems to be purposley hiding himself on AIM and won't txt me unless I txt him. I'm just upset with myself for letting him back into my life, I just thought he was being genuine for once and maybe he his but just isn't ready?? I'm guessing I should probably let him go.





I'm 26 he's 27. I know it's a lot of drama and frankly I just wish he never came back into my life. I care about him, but it's stressing me out too much because I think I will always have feelings for him since we never had the chance to experience a real relationship.





Guys..do you think I should just talk to him (but I'm pretty sure he will turn on me like I'm crazy for having feelings about it) or should I just tell him that I think we shouldn't talk anymore at all or just be friends and not*****NEED ADVICE%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;PLEASE HELP GUYS!!!!!!*****?
You need to turn the other way. You labeled it correctly. You are his rebound chick. He tries not to burn the bridge so He can have a hot chick to turn to when he needs one. I know it hurts, but light that bridge on fire cut the ropes, and throw a few rocks in on top of it just to make sure it is never open to be croossed again. You deserve and need a man that love you not his ex. Do not even leave the friend door open because that block head will use it as a back door across your bridge everytime.*****NEED ADVICE%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;PLEASE HELP GUYS!!!!!!*****?
story is so long but i agree all the details are required.





you should call him and just tell him what you are feeling. then you will know by his response what his feelings are.





before you call give him a break from you for a bit like a week or 2





good luck
This is so sad it reminds me of an ex i had. I fall hard to. I think since you like him the best way to feel some closure that you should ask him about it. If he just outs it off or ignores you and doesn't answer he is not worth your time. It will be hard but you seem like an awesome girl and you shouldn't let someone who isn't willing to help you understand how he feels tie you down. I really hope you find someone who is better for you.
Okay.. I can understand what you are going through.. Atleast I can try.. I think this relation was never meant to start.. Just leave him dear.. there are lots of guys in this world. And I am sure this is not the one made for you. Your special partner is not him. Leave him and be happy and wait for your soul mate.. One who loves you and don't give you punishment of not talking without any reason.. All the best girl.. God bless you!
he is definitely not a trust worthy guy


beware of him
It's time to find someone else that will make you feel good about yourself.. make you feel valuable and precious. Someone that adores you and has a big smile on his face every time he sees you. Someone that talks about you constantly when he is not around you.





Stay clear of the other guy.. you were his hook-up for when he was lonely... which might not have been the end of the world if you were looking for the same thing.. but you weren't.. you were invested.





Danger Will Robinson! Stay away!
Short answer and to the point. Drop him like a bad habit. He wants to play head games. He don't want to buy the cow if can get the milk for free.





Get with someone that has no baggage and who will treat you like you want to be treated with some respect. All this guy wants to do is tap you when he's horny.





Sorry for the abbreviated answer. Good Luck.
well i would say just to wait for sometime.. after maybe he get over with his ex, he perhap may have feeling for u . but untill then , u just make him convinced enough that u moved on with ur life and u can live without him in ur life. if he cared about u or interested in u, he'll come to u back for surely but this time, it'll be for sure if he truely interested in u or not. if he do not come back, then u can considered that he's not lucky to have u. and he's still not over with his ex. and afterthat u might wanna move on with ur life...
This boy, and that's precisely what he is, a boy, wants someone to take the place of his ex girlfriend. He desperately wants your attention, affection and most definitely the sexual benefits. He keeps playing these games KNOWING that you will come back, because you have each time that he has said he no longer wants to communicate. I believe you're wasting your time, more importantly, what would you want to get to know someone or really understand their feelings if they are not willing to understand yours?
ok WOW! you need to relax and stop looking at this so closely what is it with girls now a days if a guy likes you believe me you will be the first to know stop chasing things that dont have any interest in you, you and looking at this stupid situation to closely, so remember what i said if a guy likes you he will try to get you other than that stop trying so hard
I'm not a guy, but I can tell you from experience that there's no point in initiating anymore conversation with this guy because you've already put your feelings and motives out there to him and the ball has been in his court for a while now. I know you desperately want to know the meaning behind those intimate moments and possibly hope that it meant something more to him like it did to you - but the truth is, how I see your situation is that he is going to use you just as a rebound. Guys are pretty blunt when they tell you something at times and he's already told you that he's not over his ex and he's not ready for a relationship. He goes to you just to seek intimacy and once you give him what he wants he doesn't need anything more from you. He's not ready to commit, there's no point asking him to say it to you because he will keep avoiding the question and you will just end up being really bitter towards each other. Anyway, hope that helps. Good luck.