I need advice about a guy, looking for guys to answer mostly.?

It's long but needs the explanation. Please give me actual advice on the barista (thats a person who works in a coffee shop %26amp; makes the drinks for those who don't know.) I'm really not looking for advice on my relationship so please don't give that.





I'm in a relationship that needs work to fix and we both love each other so we are trying to fix it. I have considered breaking up several times and I'm not so sure it will last past my junior year (this upcoming school year). We've been together for nearly 2 years, but lately I seem to not really like my bf but I still love him. That's not the issue however.


I have this favorite barista. And although I try not to like him, I do.


Please don't mention the age difference, I'm 16 he's 21 or 22. I know that I should not expect anything and I don't really. But he is awfully nice to us when we go in, he actually makes a point to say hello %26amp; bye, the others will just let us walk out but say bye if we do first whereas say for instance today we go in hes standing behind someone %26amp; is still like hi guys %26amp; waves over their head. I happened to notice today that he was off to the side talking to the other barista and looked our way a couple times and I heard cute. (I tend to listen to the baristas when my bf gets boring when we are in there, bad I know but I listen to him as well.) And I know I like him because it makes my day if he is there when we are, and ruins my time if he isn't working.


I attended the HP midnight showing, my bf %26amp; i went to Starbucks first. Then later the person next to us had left %26amp; came back (to Starbucks) and is telling the girl about someone who worked there (the barista of course) and mentions that he said he was coming when he got off work. So of course, I get super excited %26amp; watch for him when I know they are closed. Sure enough I see him wave, but he's on the phone.


Anyway turns out he is in our theater, he sits up at the top %26amp; my bf %26amp; i sat by the rail in the middle. At this point the barista has already seen us. I of course purposefully situate myself where I can casually glance up. I noticed that it seemed every time I looked up, he was looking at me too.


I don't know it could have been just me, or he could have noticed I kept looking, or he could have been looking like I was.





He looks like a really interesting person, and I would like to get to know him just to see if I still like him %26amp; all. And I've finally found him on facebook (which seems stalkerish but I get bored and if I know first names %26amp; know people that they know its actually quite easy to do). Problem is I don't know whether to add him or not, which would provide an opportunity to get to know him when my bf is not around (he kind of dominates conversations), but I don't want him to be how the heck did you find me and make myself sound bad.





I'm not planning on breaking up at the moment, but what do you think about the situation at the theater %26amp; what I should maybe do?





Please only answer if you are going to put some thought into it not something automatic like whatever is best for youI need advice about a guy, looking for guys to answer mostly.?
I find it hard to offer any advice on how to better your chances with this guy while you're treating your boyfreind so terribly.


How can you possibly say that you're working on your relationship with him when you're at the same time, trying to get to know some guy that you know that you like.


If you cared at all about saving your relationship then you'd find another coffee shop and stop seeing this guy.


I mean, he only makes your coffee, he might be cute, but what has he demonstrated about himself that makes you think he's worth leaving a guy thats loved you for 2 years?


You owe it to your boyfreind and your relationship to give it more of a chance to survive than that, wether you know it or not, you're only making things worse and probably breaking your boyfreinds heart.


I mean, he goes out with his gf to get coffee, then has to deal with her being in a bad mood becuase the guy she's attracted to outside their relationship wasnt there for you to drool over, thats terrible.


In finding him on facebook, your only intention could be to get to know him better, and your only reason for doing that would be because you like him and wether you can admit it or not, you want something to happen.


You're still with your boyfreind though so to be going around laying ground work like that with other guys is as bad as cheating.





And also, let me tell you something.


This guy's a cute, hip, 22 year old barrista, he probably goes out to clubs on the weekend and picks up girls, he's probably got a couple of f*ck buddies around town, hell, he's probably even picked up a few Starbucks customers before.


I hate to say it sweetie, but there's a good chance that even after sacrificing everything you have with your boyfreind for him, you'd find that he would probably only be using you for sex.


Guys that age take advantage of girls your age, if he sees you all smitten with him, then he's certainly got enough charm to get you into the sack, but the problem will be, you'll be after more and he wont be willing to give it, and you'll have lost your boyfreind because of it, and you'll end up used, heartbroken and alone.


Dont say I didnt warn you.