Don't call him.
Don't do Anything...
When he calls you on the phone, be polite.
If he asks you out on a date, make sure he knows you are not paying anymore.
If he bulks at that, say that it is not fair that you do ALL the work and he reaps all the benefits.
He is a freeloader and is USING you.
Gambling is MUCH more important than you are to him.
Why would ANYONE EVER want to Date anyone else that has NO LIFE.
That means that you would have NO Life too.
GO meet people. Go out and make new friends, both Girls and Boys.
Have fun, be responsible, pay your bills, Don't talk about your Ex Boyfriend AT ALL.
In Other words, Go Have a Life...
His parents will take care of him if you Stop.
If he cares enough to ask why you don't see him anymore, be honest with him. It sounds like he needs it.
No fall for his pitty party anymore.
He is not on Dialysis 24hours a day 7 days a week.
If he has time for gambling, he has time to run a web based business or sell stuff on Ebay or SOMETHING to earn cash to pay the Bills.
He could alwasy sell the house to earn money too. (BUT, I am sure he would just gamble it away).
If he is addicted to gambling, the best friend you can be is stop being an enabler..
Call Gamblers annonamous for him. You can learn some things how to quit helping him to gamble.
Good Luck.
P.S. Find someone your own age that you have something in common with.***ANOTHER TRICKY QUESTION!!**** post-teenage advice**HELP PLEASE guys this one is hard!?
well it is not a real relationship and does he use his condition to keep u around nice guy?u say sounds like a cretin to me sorry to say.but ur so wrong he has feelin's i know but u gotta look after urself loose him luv he is gonna live long time it wont kill him he has his heater.
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well i hear it all the time and i would say it's just another sob story.
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well i hear it all the time and i would say it's just another sob story.
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I agree with answerman, find someone your own age.
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Dialysis is no picnic, but I'm pretty sure it isn't a death sentence. This guy sounds like he may just be looking for sympathy wherever he can find it.
You owe it to yourself and to him to let him know where he really stands with you. It totally sucks to have to lay it out to him, but it seems he has the kind of personality that could easily drag you down.
You seem to be an intelligent and thoughtful person. I know you will be able to handle this situation the right way. He may get upset with you, but that could be a good thing. It might wake him up to what's going on (or not going on) in his life.
Does he kiss you? Next time he tries kisses you, I would say ';Bob, we need to talk'; and then just be honest with him and tell him that you don't want to hurt his feelings, but that it just isn't going to work.
wow, thats a hard position ur in, just be honest with him, tell him that you feel like that at your age u may/or that u want to find someone who is closer to your age. be honest with him, listen to your heart, God works in mysterious ways, he might get better in the future and if u think u have a good thing going dont let his sickness scare you away. think of it this way, what if u got married to someone else and they got sick, would u leave him? remember better or for worse, i do understand your not married to him. tell him that your feelings have changed for him, but you want to be his friend and u will be there for him if he has kids he will or maybe will understand. tell him you gotta do whats best for you that its just not clickin anymore. the truth hurts but it must be spoken, put yourself in his shoes. if felt this way what would you want him to do.... seriously think about that, how would u want to be told... just a thought, good luck
Sounds to me like you are just sticking around out of pity. If he weren't on dialysis, would you be with a guy like that? You owe it to yourself to find someone you really want to be with. You also owe it to him to be honest.
You sound like you really care. Have the courage to talk to him. Let it be his decision if he wants to stay friends after you tell him that he's not a good match for your future. It's okay to let go when you know you are not a match.
u go tell him directly coz no one dies from love,trust me
Don't break it to him when he is about to kiss you, first mistake. Don't say stuff like, ';I want us to be close firends..'; or anything like that. That is way worse. You could do something completely wrong by cheating on him, and have him dump you. (use only as a very last result.) That is wrong I know, but he would then be more mad than angry. (which may give him a motive to live.) I would talk to him on the phone because then he won't keep calling you because of a letter, and not in person cause he may act tough, but he would be crushed. Better on the phone, so he can cry without being seen. So I say don't become friends for a long time, don't bring it up untill he finds someone else. (I'm a guy who has been dumped before, I know what would work really well.)
you should be honest, honesty is very important. you shouldn't let your true feelings cause feelings of guilt. He may know already he's dying and not make permanant attachments. You have enough valid points to warrant a breakup without his sickness coming into play. Don't make it an issue, don't let it become one. Be quick, and firm. Don't stay w/ someone out of a sense of guilt. peace
Wow...that's a tough situation you're in! First of all, if a guy is a slacker, he's NOT worth being with - dialysis or not. Second, if you don't have ';romantic'; feelings for him...there's no point in continuing the relationship! The best thing you can do is just be honest with him - tell him that you don't have feelings for him ';that'; way, but that you would like to remain friends. He may not like that, but at least you tried! Also, if he asks you why...tell him! Someone with no ambition in life needs to know that it is a turn-off to most people. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders...find someone like you! Good luck :)
Be honest and tell him that the last thing you want is to hurt him, but that you are not attracted to him and that you want to end it
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